I remember summer fun at Uncle Johnny and Aunt Irene Paul’s home (Paula’s grandparents). We enjoyed their cool swimming pool in the hot Georgia sun, and a breeze around a big wooden skating rink in lace up shoe skates! There were nights filled with laughter, Southern pit BBQ, homemade peach ice cream and twinkling outdoor lights! When the two families came together, there was comfort, yet also that feeling of wild abandon that gregarious family gatherings can bring to a young child. Even though my cousin Paula and I didn’t get to spend the winter holidays together, because my mother thought it was important to have Christmas in our own home, memories of our times spent together in the summer continued to warm our hearts through the holidays.
My family has always loved celebrating the holidays with food and family gatherings. Though money was tight, my mother and grandmother would show their love with the special dishes they joyfully prepared. There was never a shortage of good home cooking! They loved to pop a big turkey in the oven and prepare all the delicious side dishes. At Christmas and Thanksgiving there were pans of cornbread dressing and gravy with giblets and eggs, sweet potato soufflé, green beans, pickled peaches, olives and sweet gherkins, all served in crystal. My favorite treat was ambrosia with its bright red cherries, fresh snow-white coconut, Georgia pecans, and delicious winter orange and grapefruit sections all mingling together. It was a feast that was topped off with Big Mama Howell’s dessert beauties. We devoured her amazing Red Velvet and German Chocolate cakes, and homemade Divinity.
I still love the warmth, joy and comfort that the Christmas holidays bring. They are a time of anticipation, preparation and thinking of others. As I have grown older and wiser, gone are the days of making lists of things I would like. Now I look forward to spending time with family and friends, and determining what to cook to say I love and care for you, just as my folks did. I look at time together in the kitchen as a way to spend special moments with those I love.
Christmas morning is now spent at my daughter Stephanie’s home, along with Laura, my youngest, and my grandchildren, Wyatt and Heath. We open gifts together and it is a time I cherish even more than when I was a child. The emphasis has shifted from receiving to giving! It is my greatest joy to see the smiles and children’s glee for the treasures they find under the tree. Now, like my mother who spent hours in the kitchen cooking family favorites, I understand the true joy that comes from giving!
Over the years I have come to realize that what we love about Thanksgiving and Christmas is not only sharing good food, but also giving thanks for our blessings, the celebration of the birth of our Lord, and spending time with those we hold dear. The true gift is the anticipation of the love and joy that we experience in time spent with family and friends. The willingness to work diligently in the kitchen and the daily sacrifices my parents and grandparents made, speaks of the depth of their love and commitment. The traditions and memories created in years past, especially the laughter and the love steeped in the preparation of a good home cooked meal, continue to bind us as a family.
1 bag of Navel oranges*
1 bag of grapefruit, pink if possible, as they are more colorful*
1 large fresh pineapple (I use 1 large can of pineapple chunks in pineapple juice, 20 oz. can or more or less to taste)
1 jar of maraschino cherries, drained and cut in halves, optional
1 small call of flaked coconut (3 ½ oz), optional
1 cup chopped pecans, optional
sliced bananas, optional
* Your best friend when preparing this dish is a good, sharp knife. I use a filet knife; the blade is long but narrow and lightweight and very sharp.
Peel the oranges, removing as much of the pith (the white lining under the skin), discarding the pith and the peeling.
Over a large bowl, section the oranges, removing the membranes, any pith left and the seeds, retaining all of the pulp and juice.
Over the same bowl repeat the process for the grapefruit mixing the fruit sections together. Add the fresh, peeled, cored and chopped pineapple or add the canned pineapple including the juice. Stir well to blend the fruits and the juices. Cover the bowl and refrigerate until ready to serve.
Many families like to add other fruit and nuts such as the cherries, coconut, bananas and/or pecans. You may want to serve these additions in small bowls beside the fruit and let each make their own combination. The bananas, coconut and pecans will soften if you have leftovers, so I like to leave the oranges, grapefruit and pineapple separate. These three will keep 3 days easily in the refrigerator.
Yield is based on the size of bags that you purchase.