Teaching Table Manners

  • Pin It
  • print
  • email to a friend
By Martha Nesbit

Teaching young children table manners can pay off big dividends – they will be more confident when dining away from home, and their good manners will cause them to be welcomed guests!

So, what should you teach young children, and how? As with teaching anything to children - like buckling up for safety in the car – use repetition, repetition, and repetition, until manners become habits. And, if you make manners fun, children are more likely to enjoy using them at your table and when dining out.

Here are the most important rules for little people:

  • Wait until everyone is seated and ready to begin eating. In our house, no one can eat until after the blessing. You may also suggest that eating begin after the cook has picked up his or her fork.

  • Don’t talk with food in your mouth. This is particularly difficult for young diners, who are blurters, saying whatever comes to mind as soon as it pops into their little heads! Remind them to chew all of their food, swallow, then speak. Tell them that many adults too do not follow this rule!

  • Likewise, don’t chew with your mouth open. This can happen even if you are not talking, and often leads to the biggest eating no-no of all – smacking!

  • Place your napkin in your lap. This can take little ones a long time to do, as the napkin has to be unfolded and spread, and they can make quite a production of the procedure. Be patient, and let them do it. The beauty of a napkin in the lap is that the inevitable spills go onto the napkin, not onto your child’s clothes.

  • Use the napkin to keep food off of your face and from around your mouth. Teach your children to dab at the corners of their mouths with a small piece of the napkin. Wipe your mouth with the napkin at the end of each meal, just in case.

  • Practice at home which foods can be eaten with the fingers, and which ones are designed to be cut. Fried chicken, French fries, fried shrimp and fish sticks are all OK to eat with your fingers. I’m even OK with picking up little broccoli spears with the fingers. But peas are a no-no, as are carrots and beans. And please, don’t let your children eat creamy foods – like macaroni and cheese – with their fingers. Practicing at home will help your child be ready when he or she is out among other experienced diners.

  • Everyone - children and adults – should remain at the table until all are finished eating. It is impolite to hop up from the table when you are done, or to leave the table at a restaurant and visit another table. There are certain times, like when adults are talking and taking a really long time to eat, when children may ask to be excused from the table. If the answer is “yes,” then teach your children to take their plates to the kitchen, scrape the plate into the trash can, and place the place next to the sink or in the dish washer.

  • Finally, say “thank you” to whomever prepared or purchased your meal. Being grateful is one of the most important of all manners, and it is the one that the cook (or the one who picked up the check) will remember most.

Read More From Holidays and Entertaining.

Read More From Back to School.

Read More From Kid's Kitchen.

You May Also Like These Blogs:

You May Also Like These Recipes:

Leave a Comment

Reader Comments:

Paula I know that this will help so many of the parents out there that are lookiing to find help. Allso for the many who just might need a few little tips before there 1st date. A first impression is a great thing.
With all my best to you and yours Paula Thanks and love allways. <3

By Tress on March 31, 2010

This is very helpful information because I have a young boy would like to teach good table and wasn’t sure how but this really helps me.

Thank You

By Patricia on November 28, 2009

image
Paula Deen
Paula Deen
The Lady's Blog
The Queen of Southern Cuisine muses about her recipes, life and family. See Posts

Brooke Deen
Brooke Deen
Deen Mother
Advice on raising two boys (three counting Jamie). See Posts

Brandon Branch
Brandon Branch
Southern Style
Decorating Inspiration from Paula's Design Director. See Posts

Julia Sayers
Julia Sayers
Hot off the Press
Step behind the pages and let the Associate Editor of Cooking with Paula Deen fill you in on what goes into creating every issue. See Posts

Lisa Scarbrough
Lisa Scarbrough
Thrift Store Mommy
Mom on a dime advice from Paula's Digital Properties Manager. See Posts

Andrea Goto
Andrea Goto
Mom 2.0
Tips from a real-world mom with comedic tendencies. See Posts

Martha Lee
Martha Lee
Earth Mother
Practical, earth-conscious ways to live and parent in the 21st century. See Posts

Susan Greene a.k.a BUBBLES
Susan Greene a.k.a BUBBLES
Bubbles' Corner
Ideas and advice from a 21st Century young at heart Grandmother. See Posts

Cindy Edwards
Cindy Edwards
Southern Proper
Etiquette advice from a true Southern belle. See Posts

image

Paula, I love watching you and your family. I miss seeing your show, I watched you everyday. My son lives in Charleston S.C. He took me to the Lady & Sons to eat. Oh my goodness! People are always telling me that I look just like the cooking lady Paula Deen. I always tell them that you are my hero. May God Bless You Mary Ann
Mary Ann Tharp in A Summer of Burgers on August 15, 2014 at 10:48 pm

Add a few spoonfuls of parmesan cheese to the flour and cornmeal breading and it kicks the tomatoes up another notch. Bev
in Crispy Fried Green Tomatoes on August 15, 2014 at 10:33 am

I just bought Paula's Peach Salad Dressing and wondered if anyone has a good recipe that they use it in?
Melissa in Taste Testing 101 on August 13, 2014 at 8:36 am

Congrats Bobby. Loved the family picture miss you Paula on TV will be watching online. Jack is getting big. Looks like his mom but Matt aka moose has your face. Your eyes cheeks hair even falls to his face like yours except to the left. Good luck on your next venture. You give us other 60+ yr women strength to move on. Keep up the good work.
Carol Bryant in Love at Last on August 11, 2014 at 6:12 pm